The Art of the DM

How to slide in the DMs without being a creep

Happy Sunday everyone,

This week, during our weekly episode of Love & Lust, a reader asked a question about the right way to DM girls.

Since the topic is fresh on my mind, and since this is such a crucial part of “digital dating,” this is a great time for a full-length post on The Art of the DM.

This post will re-cap a few things from the episode, and we will dive into more details about this topic. Additionally, I will provide a general framework for how to approach this.

Quick Recap on Instagram

Gentlemen, if you’re still on the fence about using Instagram to market yourself effectively to women, you simply are missing out on the BEST way to have access to women.

The women on dating apps are either ogres, toxic, or completely unattainable if your profile is pushed down by the algorithm, yet the majority of the attractive female population uses instagram.

As a result, if we are going to use instagram as a dating app, we are going to have to determine a way to open interactions with women that is repeatable, effective, and not “creepy.”

DM Do’s and Don’t’s

We’ve all seen those screenshots on the internet of dudes sliding into DMs with some absolutely reprehensible, awful garbage. Maybe you’ve done it yourself.

Just because other guys are doing this and failing gloriously at it doesn’t mean there ISN’T a right way of “sliding in,” and that you can’t get monumental results doing this.

An excellent example of what NOT to do

Before getting started, let’s frame “sliding into DM’s” by studying what women experience on social media already.

IT IS CRITICAL that you watch this video to develop an idea of what your competition is doing in Cyberspace.