The Makings of a Modern Casanova

"Be the flame, not the moth"

What’s up guys? Welcome to the first paid post of the stack.

When I sat down to plan content for this thing, I asked myself one question:

“What do you wish you knew about dating, relationships, and sex, when you were 18 years old?”

I thought back to who I was in high school, the questions I had about life, relationships, etc., and that set the foundation for the future of this substack.

Even though this post describes the “playbook” for being a playboy, a lot of the ideals here also apply in exclusive, monogamous relationships.

OBVIOUSLY, if you can win the hearts of many, you can win the heart of one.

For ease of reading, skip to the bottom of this article if you’d like to read my bulleted list of what it takes to be a “Modern Casanova.”

Before diving into more specific topics relating to sex, dating, and relationships, I think it’s important for us to define what our goal is.

Depending on who you ask nowadays, you’ll probably hear mention of multiple colored pills. Some people will tell you that daring to be nice to women makes you a simp, others will say that you’re not a real man unless you fuck 1000 bitches. Some may tell you to ignore women entirely (MGTOW), and others will say you must find God before all else.

That’s all fine and good, but in reality, whether you swallow the red or blue pill, or whatever pill, you miss a lot of truth that only comes from a wholistic view of the world.

Reality is rarely black and white (or in this case, red and blue), and even though pundits would have you think that there’s only two options, either being emasculated, or “toxic,” nuance is key in determining the right path in this world.

We must define for ourselves a new path.